Family dynamics

There are so many different family styles and dynamics. Within one family there can be many different dynamics with different members of the family in or out. This is such an interesting topic that can get very complex and confusing. Individuals bond in different ways with others and this is no exception within a family. There can be an infinite amount of bond types that people can make with another human being. 

The bonds we make with our immediate family/ in the home are crucial for our development. If there is a negative bond between father and mother and they are fighting constantly and loudly, this will not only effect their relationship negatively but also the relationship the children have with each parent. This could bring some members closer, using each other for support, while it pushes others away from them. There is also a scenario where bond of siblings of parents or even parent to child that can push others out of the “circle” and cause them to be left out. As we can see in the relationships around us, there are so many different bond types but there is one thing that I see that is universal. A home with a father and a mother who are married and love each other, create the most loving home that is successful for a child growing up. There is also another matter that comes up when talking about families and that is gender/ gender roles. It is an essential part of a healthy, happy life to now gender as male and female. This limits confusion, controversy and added stress that growing children do not need. Their lives are already a big jumble of finding themselves, finding friends, finding hobbies, fighting negativity, fighting impurities, and the horrid puberty stage. Children now-a-days are attacked left and right with bullying, unsafe neighborhoods, and unsupportive homes. The last thing they need is to have to decipher what gender they are.  Gender roles come as quite an instinct given by our Father in Heaven and we fulfill them so well as we go throughout our lives, but Satan has attacked this idea and created chaos in the world and hurting so many people as he leads them farther and farther from the iron rod, without them knowing.  I believe that a home with father and mother that love each other is a very important factor in a child’s life. 

Another thing that can positively influence a child’s life is a balanced level of respect and trust in both the child from the parents and the parents from the child. This is such an important aspect in a child-parent bond. When a parent trusts their child, they are more apt to not break the rules because there is more to lose than when its more based punishment. I have seen in my own life this exact principle in place. My dad used punishment and anger to enforce the rules. This led me to not learn as much as I could have and also breaking morals when I got out of the house. The mode of rule enforcement and outbreak caused problems for me now. I have seen in my boyfriend’s family a very mutual respect between the kids and the parents. They have a very close relationship with one another and are able to trust each other. The kids still want to be around each other and the parents are able to have quality relationships with each child. The older of the children are more well off with their mental health and decision making skills. I understand that this is only two examples but they are perfect examples to explain this principle in families.