Dating

Dating is a very simple concept that our society has made into something complicated. Dating can be broken up into 4 levels: dating, courtship, engagement, and marriage. Now a days, people look to an “easier” form of dating called “hang outs”. These are actually very ineffective in a lot of cases. This is not saying that hanging out with people cannot result in a strong healthy relationship but I am saying that going about dating in a hangout attitude does not result in the best relationships. Of course you can still hang out with the person but there is a strong importance of dating. Before getting to dating, a person have to look at the people in front of them and look for several different things like attractive, commonalities, creativity and fun. Girls also look to see if a guy is going to be able to provide, preside, and protect. There is actually a criteria of dating. First, there is paid for. This means that the guy pays for the date. Yes this seems very old fashioned but it actually says a tremendous amount about the man he will become. If the guy does not pay for the girl then there can be a question of how well he will take care of her and that he will be able to provide for their future. Next, there is planned. This is another important factor as well because it shows the amount of thought that the guy is willing to put into the relationship and if he will continue to peruse and court her throughout the relationship. The last criteria of dating is paired off. This is extremely important to the process. Can the couple be paired off together and just be the two of them without being awkward? Can they have a conversation that is productive and get on a deep level? Like I mentioned before, trends are not helping this at all. People are afraid to lead someone on or have the pressure of a date. They prefer the less formal way of getting to know someone so they can be “more themselves” or they don’t freeze up as well as having the opportunity to leave when they want because there is no commitment. Some guys are just plain afraid of the rejection. There are so many benefits to going on dates such as the chance to do shared activities. The positives to this is then you can see what the other person likes and make sure they like the same things and that you can have fun together. It is never fun to be on a date with someone that hates an activity that you just love. That isn’t a relationship that you will be able to thrive in when neither of you like the same activities.  It also is the worst to be on a date or even just be around someone that you just cannot talk to. No matter how hard you try, the conversation never picks up. So why would you want to spend time with someone that you can do fun things or talk to? Beats me! Now some of you are probably asking is you should even date if you aren’t looking to be in a serious relationship. The answer is yes!! A serious relationship is not the only reason for dating. You can be dating to find what you like and don’t like. You could think you don’t have anything specific you are looking for and then go on a date with a guy that brings you flowers before the date and you realize that you actually prefer the flowers before and it gives a nice touch that you didn’t expect to enjoy. On the flip side, you are picked up for a date and the guy doesn’t open the car door or building doors for you. Before you didn’t notice this as a thing on your list but now you are completely turned off but this lackadaisical act. What if a girl burps on the date? Are you totally disgusted or it doesn’t bother you at all? You would have no idea about these different factors if you didn’t go on many different dates. You should treat dates to have fun. Although there are people that can only date a few people and find the one, your search can be long and require much thought and investigating. You may need to date 100 girls before the one. Don’t get down on yourself, just have fun!